Wednesday, August 29, 2007 @8:05 AM
It's amazing isn't it.
(speaking from experience. Yours might be different)
What you prioritise a year ago may greatly differ from what you prioritise now. I've noticed something.
As young adolescents, it's that sense of love that you want to feel, the feeling of someone loving you that you ache for. Thus some will want to "settle down" with their partner(if they find one). I'm talking abt teens aged 13-14.
Usually, at this age, it is when you are the most vulnerable. You have not experienced enough to really understand what "going steady" or being "attached" mean. You might be trapped in your own world of confusion, thus hurting yourself and the people invovled. Proceeding too fast with the relationship with the immature thinking that everything is a fairytale will only crash down on you when the weight of reality settles in.
Then, when you reach sec 3, things really do change.
It's the sense of belonging that you want now. You want the assurance that you have strong friends that you can rely on. Besides that, the amount of responsibilities pushed to you is seriosuly heavy. On top of that, you have your studies to worry about, and when you have too many things to commit to, you really don't know what to do. In the end many people settle into a state of depression. Why?! It's because of all the commitments that they have! Relationships are no longer placed as no. 1 on the "priority list"
Not to mention, you tend to think more about the seriousness of a relationship. You begin to understand the meaning of waiting, you tend to evaluate the importance of having a boy/girlfriend. Again, it's friends that matter more to you than relationships. Relationships can wait.
Though I say all this, i can never deny the fact that people do get jealous when others get into a relationship, or when they get rejected, OR when they find out that the person they thought like her/him doesn't have any special feelings for the person at all. Yet, it's all these frustrations that contribute to the "waiting period".
Studies and various commitments are seriously choking up my life! That's probably why I don't bother so much about relationships as much as I did(I used to think about them all the time. sheesh). Even if I do like a guy, I won't let him know that soon, cuz I'm afraid that I can't commit to it. See, it's all commitments! THINK! at this age(15) can you even be committed to your partner!
Sure, i used to be that immature girl who thinks that love (the BGR kind) is all fantasy, that it's the best remedy for my aching heart, but i can't emphasize any more, it's those great friends who pull me through each and every obstacle.
I have faced setbacks, I have faced rejection. If you are reading this, I can empathise with you.
Pick yourself up. Being rejected by someone doesn't spell the end of the friendship with that person. It doesn't mean you cannot love again.
Let nature take its course. There's no point rushing into things and hurting yourself. It's utterly stupid.
When it's time, you'll know.
God bless!
Sunday, August 26, 2007 @7:25 AM
Heys!!!
Been a while since i blogged haha!
Exams are coming!!!!! AHHH! I have chi and eng paper 1 tmr, plus chinese oral! Gosh i tell you, they're trying to kill us! There's so little time to do anything bleagh!
And yes, Joyce helped me do the blogskin! THANKS GAL! but i don't love her la! =.= she's so ego! hahahaha.
Hmmm, wow i'm so bored! Today, I watched rush hour 3 with my family. Gosh so funny!!!!!! Chris Tucker was such a great joker! It made my day! so what if i watch a movie before my exam? lol! it's called "chilling out". I still studied ok >.< style="COLOR: rgb(255,102,102); FONT-STYLE: italic">I'm not gonna be a bug that clings onto you, I never was. You've gotten rid of me already. Aren't you happy? Go chase your deary, I'm sure she'll be happy, although she has a buffet spread right in front of her face. Don't get me wrong, I'm just being sarcastic.
It's your choice. It's your loss. Not mine.
JoJo
